You DO Have Worth

Greetings everyone!

This shall be my first (ignore the intro) post, and so I want to enter the blogging world with a BANG (or BAM, whatever floats your boat), and shed some light on an issue that some of us may eventually face.

Yes, I know that we all encounter all kinds of problems and challenges of varying degrees, but this one in particular should be addressed. This is something that I have seen plenty of people struggle with, heck, even I struggled with it. It's something that, if given the power, can transform into a full-fledged, irrational, persistent, pesky little demon that will claw its way to your heart and mind, snatch your soul and reasoning skills, lock them in a jar, rattle it around, and throw it down a dark hole, never to see the light and brightness again (all metaphorically, of course).

Anyway, I believe that was enough buildup, so what is this topic that I'm trying to get into? It is the subject of self-worth.

Sure, plenty of people say things like, "I'M A LOSER," "I DON'T MEAN ANYTHING TO ANYONE," and "NO ONE CARES ABOUT ME," but not all of them completely believe those words to the point of thinking and feeling that they are truly worth nothing. Believing with all your metaphorical heart that you are not important or have any form of worth to someone, now that is one of the saddest plights one would, and should never, face.

It has become apparent to me that quite a number of people really think they aren't worth anything, sometimes to the point believing they are a legitimate waste of life. I hope none of you reading this thinks or feels that way, and never will. And if you do, then you are one of the reasons I am writing this.

For all of you who are struggling with knowing your worth in life: this tidbit of knowledge is for you.

I actually had this realization a few months ago, and so I hope it helps you as it helped me.

First off, there is one truth we cannot deny. That is: people do survive and life will go on with or without you... Hopefully that doesn't sound too harsh, but stay with me! I promise it gets better!

Second, people tend to measure their worth based on what they can offer to others. It's an innate feature of ours, and face it, WE DO NEED OTHERS IN OUR LIVES. And if you somehow managed to be completely content with being a lone wolf hermit living in an isolated cabin in a mountain, then congratulations, you just surpassed basic human needs and conditions! For the rest of us who get fulfillment by relationships, knowing we're important to people is... well, important.

Now this is where I have seen a lot of people struggle. This is the point where they think, "I'm not important to anyone. No one cares about me. I'm worthless." The downward spiral of negative views leads one to (foolishly) believe that he/she is not worthy and incapable of being cared about, and so he/she is worthless. Let me tell you this right now:

YOU ARE NEVER COMPLETELY ALONE IN THIS LIFE, AND THERE IS AND ALWAYS WILL BE AT LEAST ONE PERSON WHO CARES ABOUT YOU.

Sorry for screaming, but that negative thinking about no one caring really aggravates me to no end. There are billions of people on this floating rock hurling through space, so odds are that AT LEAST one will appreciate and care about you! Gosh dang, get that through your skull! We are not born alone, and we do not die alone. There is always 1 parent, family member, friend, teacher, significant other, random blogger on the internet, etc. who will care. The only way NO ONE, ZIP, NADA, 0 people will appreciate your existence is if you live out your life in utter isolation under a rock, scavenging with mole-people or something. And even then, the mole-people might still appreciate you! Human, and even animal, compassion is such a mysterious and wondrous thing, I tell ya.

Now that we established not-so-foreveralone-ness, the next thing to understand is that these people in your life like you and want you around for a reason. When the attachments form, that's when things get real. I hope you fully realize now that people in your life do love and care about you. You have become an important part of their lives as well. As long as you're still around and no one messes up the relationships you have with a dumb-head move, people who care will choose by their own free will to be with those they deem important. And guess what? You are one of those important people.

"Why would anyone even give a @#$% about me?" is probably what you're thinking. Well, let me tell you this: Everyone offers something different and unique. And now you may be thinking, "But I don't offer anything" or "I don't offer anything" to which I'll say: Stop thinking so lowly of yourself. You may not know what you bring to people, but they do see it.

Your relevance and importance is based on what you can, as an individual, bring and offer to people and the world. Seeing how you have people in your life, you can say they appreciate whatever it is you can and do offer to them. And there will always be people who are willing and able to see the special something that only YOU can bring to them.

You are worth something to people, and even though they can go on without you, that does not take away from the fact that you do bring a special little something into someone's life.

Thank you all who read this. Share it with anyone who you think needs to understand their worth!

Life Goes On, You Choose How to Move Forward

For my first post on this blog, I would like to say thank you to all who read this, and give a greater explanation on the purpose of this blog.

First off, I don't think I need to go into intricate explanation of how life is difficult at times. I'm sure you know this. I'm sure everyone knows this.

Now, if you're reading this blog, then I assume maybe you or someone you know is/was facing obstacles pertaining to eating disorders, self harm, depression, anxiety, etc. Don't worry, I'm not here to judge! I'm here to offer some advice and share some things I've gone through. It always helps to know that you are not alone in a battle.

It is quite sad to see how many people have to struggle with these types of issues. The pain and hindrances it creates on one's life can be unbearable. People can go through years with these pains. Some will reach their limits and choose to end everything, others continue trudging through life and eventually see smoother sailings and get better. The end of your battle with mental illness does not reflect how good or bad of a person you are. Only you know your limits and how you want to live your life.

Just know this: life goes on. And if you decide you want to continue moving towards a better one, don't stop, and keep trying.